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  1. Bridesmaid

    Hi all I am in the exact same situation as you redchest - I am a bridesmaid for a friend's wedding in September this year. I had dinner with her the other night and found out that the dresses will be strapless - and I too suffer blotches on the face, neck and chest. I am feeling a bit nervous about it all, but at the same time am very much looking forward to it because I've never been a bridesmaid. I usually wear a concealer/foundation make up combo on my neck and chest every day and figure I will just do the same for the wedding, as well as get a good fake tan done a day or two before. I've had spray tans before and never had any problems with them streaking or rubbing onto clothes. I thought I might also bring along a nice shawl to wear at the reception (after the photos) incase I still feel a bit self-conscious. As has already been mentioned, a wedding really is about the bride and groom so while we will both look stunning (I'm sure!) the focus will most certainly be on two other people. A service usually only runs for about 30 minutes or so, and I'm sure you will be watching your friend exchange vows and revelling in the moment (which will take your mind off of you). It'll be a fun day... and there is no way that any type of blushing will ruin it!
  2. Hi (newbie)

    Welcome! You've come to the right place. Lotsa great info and lotsa great people to share your troubles with. We're all in this together..
  3. I am trying Toastmasters International

    AlwaysHope, congrats on your achievement! I have had a similar experience this year that has been fantastic in challenging my self perception. I graduated from University last year, and am in my first year of full time employment. I have specifically decided to get involved in work committees, go to work social events and I've even signed up to a language class after work to go to on my own - just to challenge myself and prove to myself that the world won't end if I go red infront of everyone. Yes it has been interesting - yes I have gone red, at numerous committee meetings, talking infront of classmates in the new language that I'm learning... but the world hasn't ended. I still feel yuk when it happens but I just power through. My fear that people will alienate me, judge me or mock me hasn't eventuated. And I've adopted medo's IDGAF attitude, which has really helped me in being able to shrug off the blushing. I am me, and I am okay, even if I am as red as a tomato! I still have a long way to go, but this sorta stuff is already helping to break down my barriers and give me more confidence, so I'd definitely recommend it!
  4. Silly question but...

    Jamie, my bf is vietnamese and he and many of his asian friends (who are from vietnamese, laotian and chinese backgrounds) turn bright red when they drink. It's kinda cute to see as it's not something you'd expect with their tan complexion and dark features. I've never seen him or any of his friends blush as such, but he does get a little red after exercising or going hard at the gym.
  5. What Not to Wear

    Haha you are not alone!! My neck-chest blushing greatly dictates what I wear all the time. I must add that I do wear make up on my neck & chest to cover it up (somewhat) but I am still very cautious in what I wear... its very frustrating but at least I can feel comfortable that my blushing is "covered up". And yes, I do have an extensive collection of collared shirts, skivvies and rolled neck blouses
  6. makeup recommendation for the ladies

    I am a neck blotcher too... it is so frustrating! Is the Lancome foundation a thick liquid or a thin liquid? What about the Mac Studio stuff? I find that if the foundation is thin, you have to wear a concealer base to cover up the blotchies. It certainly is very annoying to have make up rubbing off on your clothes, I find that you can 'seal' the foundation if you apply pressed powder on top of it...it certainly doesn't stop the make up rubbing off, but not as much of it rubs off. And it adds just that little bit more coverage. And yes- bronzer is the magic word. Make sure you buy a good quality one though, there are plenty out there that have glitter/shimmery stuff in them (we don't want to draw attention to the blotching!) and some that have a red/pink tone to them, much like a blusher.
  7. I'm getting ETS on Febuary 8th!!

    All I can say is wow. I can honestly say that ETS has never been an option for me, so I've never really sought out information about ETS or testimonials. But your post has certainly cemented my opinion that it's something I'd never do. Thank you for sharing your story worldcreator. I hope that, regardless of the problems caused by the ETS, you live a happy life.
  8. reply from corporate CHANEL

    Clearly, the British papers would have gotten the information from somewhere... most likely Chanel's media releases or press kits, or PR people. Being a PR woman myself, I would expect better communication skills from their staff, and reliable information to come out from their camp - given the luxury status of their brand. Surely they would have enough money to hire some decent communication staff! Thanks to all for emailing them and chasing down all the information, what we know here is because of you! I certainly agree that there appears to be a huge market for a product like this... any chemists/make up creator people in our midst? Let's keep the profits within the ESFB family! :)
  9. Blushing and panic crisis!!!

    As well as what irishrose suggested (spot on might I add!)... I would say be kinder to yourself. Don't juggle too many balls, or try and be too many things to too many people. Your health and your sanity are important, so make time for yourself. Relaxation techniques are a must- meditation, deep breathing, do a google search if you're interested, there's heaps out there. I found a lot of great resources at my local library too. Be positive, and stay positive. Think happy thoughts, learn to laugh at yourself (if you don't already;)) don't be too harsh on yourself, and know what your personal limits are. For the ladies, make up is a must. It's a huge relief knowing that even if you ARE blushing/blotching (or think you are), that you can't see it (or at least, can't see it very well). I have also taken supplements for relaxation and nervous tension (I didn't particularly want to take meds) which I found helped me a lot. And try to understand that your blushing is a part of you, but it does not define who you are. I know it's easier said than done, but give this stuff a go. You gotta find what works best for you, and stay strong! You are still a wonderful person regardless of the red!!
  10. Are you toxic?

    Bob bear, Thank you for such an insightful and honest post. And, I must say, I agree with you 100%. My FB escalated earlier this year when I was on the brink of a breakdown- I just had way too much stuff happening in my life, and no where nearly enough time to do it all in. I wasnt eating well, I wasnt sleeping. It was crap. Six months down the track, my FB has calmed down significantly, and I just feel more calm and relaxed in general. I know personally, that stress is a huge trigger for me, if I am stressed, that leads to worry, anxiety, that equals blotchy mess. Stress seems inevitable, but I know that if I manage certain lifestyle factors better, such as exercising more when Im stressed, getting enough sleep, eating good balanced meals, making time for friends, etc then the stress is very manageable. Personally, I havent done much to change my diet, but in the new year, it is something I would like to experiment with as I feel what we eat has an effect on our physical and mental wellbeing too. In a nutshell, I definately agree that lifestyle factors play a huge role in managing FB, and if your life is very busy and hectic, there's a good chance that your body is simply reacting to that through excessive FB-ing.
  11. Hey Freckled, Thanks for sharing your story with us. I am so pleased for you that you are in control of your blushing and are living a happy and fulfilling life. It's a tough situation, and really, no one understands unless they have gone through the same experience. It's not something that can easily be dismissed as it does cause us varying amounts of distress. I also think that, although many of us share similar symptoms, it really is a case of finding what works for you as an individual - whether it be exercise, diet, meds, religion, etc. I hope things continue to go well for you, keep doing your thing and stay happy
  12. My worst experience was going to a class where the weekly presentations were impromptu, so you had to come prepared each week. I was so nervous I had a panic attack and turned red-from my face to my neck, chest and shoulders (I was wearing a low cut shirt as well so you could see ALL of it)It was a terrible sight. I ran to the toilet and hid. Worst of all I had to go back into the class, excuse myself and leave. That sucked. And as soon as I got to my car, I was 'normal' again, no blotches or anything. I had a number of other panic attacks within that week of my horrible Uni-blushingfest, when I realised that I had suffered from a breakdown - my uni program included an unpaid traineeship ontop of study and paid work, assignments, exams, personal commitments and family commitments and it was just too much, I coldn't juggle anymore balls and I just cracked. People aren't robots, we need to take care of ourselves spiritually, physically and mentally. Somehow I had forgotten that. I can say, that almost 6 months on, I am in a much better frame of mind. I take supplements, meditate, try to exercise daily, eat as well as possible and make plenty of time for friends, family and my BF. I still get anxious and nervous, and still go red, but I don't think about it nearly as often as I did, I do a fairly good job of covering it up with makeup, and have become resigned to the fact that maybe this is just how my body is. As much as it sucks, I try and put it in perspective - I can still walk, hear, I can see, I have my arms, and legs and an able mind. What sort of things have you done to better your FB situation SickOfThis? I think you would find that if you explored why you blush, how it started, how you feel about it, how you perceive youself, are you lacking in confidence, etc, then you would have a good understanding of your situation, and then you could decide on some strategies that could help you manage your FB day-to-day. And sometimes you have to start small like that.
  13. Walloftextftw aka the dissertation

    medo/mchh/red mask - may I ask, have any of you seen a dermatologist/GP for this and had any sorts of testing done? maybe even seen a CNS specialist (or something to that effect)? If so it might be worth sharing their findings if there was anything significant. It's interesting that FB can range from being situation-specific to almost-constant-redness. Is there much research out there on FB? If there are any future doctors on this board-specialise in this area and help us out, and we will all love you for it! I would like to mention though medo, after reading your post that your FB sounds much more physiological than psychological, hence the fact that no "psychobabble" will be of any use to you. But, for those of us whose FB is situation-specific, retraining your inner-monologue and reaction to it is a big part of being able to manage it. So although it may not specifically help you, please don't discount it as a management-tool for others. Different things work for different people depending on the "grade" of their FB - and hey, we're all in this together.
  14. Hi! New here.

    Hey Leelee welcome:) I have the exact same FB as you - chest and neck - not cool in any way! Im actually due to see my nephrologist in about 2 weeks time for my annual check up, as I have some minor health issues with my kidneys. I am going to ask him about adrenalin, and maybe if there's a way if he can measure if I produce too much of it, and maybe if there's some link between my kidney health and excess adrenalin? There could be, but then again, not necessarily as my stumbling into this forum has opened my eyes as to how common FB (to all degrees) is. My FB tends to worsen then the adrenalin kicks in (in meetings, presentations, etc) and it would be interesting to see if there's anything that can be done physiologically. But hey, if not, life goes on! Not a fan of the FB but am slowly becoming resigned to the fact that its here to stay... and meh I have bigger things to worry about. I will keep you posted if the doc reports any interesting news.
  15. Doctors!!

    I agree with the genetic comment also- my Mum had severe FB when she was a young woman. At 56, she says she still gets it but doesn't give a crap what anyone thinks about it- hehe that's probably the best attitude towards something like this. Interestingly my sister doesn't have it, or is yet to show signs of it (I didn't FB until I was about 18 ) although, I also have to agree that our feelings about blushing feed our fear of it also.
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